Toddler Feeding Techniques – Choice

Most of the time our toddler is way too interested in other stuff to be worried about eating. To combat this we have had to develop a few tricks in our toddler feeding routine to ensure she gets enough food into her belly to fuel her growing little mind and body and the first of these is choice.

I generally will have something in mind to feed her but I try to get her to make that choice herself.

“Ha ha” I hear you say. I also try to make sure that the choice involves at least one of the foods that she will always eat. I use the word try as it doesn’t work all the time.

In our case her favorites are bread and cheese. For example if I was planning to give her a cheese, tomato and avocado sandwich for lunch I would say to her, “What would you like for lunch today? Would you like a yummy sandwich?”
“No” is generally the reply (These days the answer is almost always a firm ‘no’ to everything).
“OK then what about some tomato?”
“No”

I then go about naming all manner of fruit and vegetables and anything else I can think of except the two favorites of cheese and bread.

Be a little careful what you offer your toddler as you will have to supply if she says yes so don’t suggest what you don’t have and definitely don’t suggest ice cream or sweets as it’s pretty difficult to go back to a tomato after a belly full of chocolate ice cream.

Anyhow I finally offer cheese and by this stage she is so excited to hear something that she actually really likes (it sounds even better to them if it is said directly after things like broccoli and cabbage) that a resounding ‘Yes’ is the reply.

With much excitement I pull out the cheese and cut a few small pieces for her and a few larger ones for my sandwich (It definitely helps if you are eating too). While she is eating the cheese I then cut up a tomato into slices and leave it on the bench where she can see it. The same goes for the avocado and finally the bread.

As I am building the sandwich I will eat a few of the chopped up pieces myself and then casually drop a few on her plate as well. These are usually eaten along with the bits of cheese. For some reason with our toddler they are more likely to be eaten if they look like they appeared there by accident and I don’t watch her eat them. Go figure?

I then cut the crusts off the sandwich and divide it into eight small triangles whereby I will put one on her plate and the rest on the bench in clear view. I find it helps greatly to cut the tomato into little bite-sized pieces so when she does take a bite from the sandwich the tomato (which can be hard to cut with the teeth) won’t slide out with the first bite.

It also helps to squash all the ingredients together as much as you can so the triangles can be held easily by little hands and not fall apart between hand and mouth.

As our toddler has already tasted all of the ingredients for this meal and she didn’t die of yucky poisoning the addition of her favourite ingredient (bread) into the mix is usually enough to get her to eat the sandwich whereby she will then motion for another triangle.

If not I can usually encourage her to eat all of the ingredients without actually having them on a sandwich which is the same thing anyway.

I think that the fact that she has chosen the main ingredient of her meal makes our toddler feel like she is control of the situation and subsequently does not mind eating as well as having a few extras of my choosing. The worst case scenario is that she only has bread and cheese for that meal and that in itself is better than nothing.

Who likes to be told what to eat….?

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Chore Time Can Be Fun.

I have found that including our little girl in all the daily chores that I have to do not only keeps her happy and the both of us busy for the whole day, but can also make chore time a great bonding time.

The best thing about it is that she absolutely loves it. You should see her little face as she looks up while dusting away at a shelf or fluffing up some pillows and the more I encourage her, the more she wants to do.

It seems to make her feel very grown up and useful. Also, she is kept busy doing the things she loves most – imitating us!

In addition it keeps her right next to me the whole time which is great for both of us. She would spend the whole day in my pocket if I let her so by following me around and helping me out makes her feel both secure and important. It also means that I don’t have to worry about where she is or what she is getting into.

You do have to be a little selective in the chores that you both do together as you would not want to have your little one playing with any nasty chemicals or other dangerous stuff. That is why it’s generally best to leave the cleaning of the showers and toilets for when she is asleep.

We both have a really good time singing silly songs about cleaning or making the bed or whatever. This not only helps with the teaching of language and communication skills but also introduces her to general living skills.

Add to this all the tickle and cuddle breaks and it makes chore time a whole lot more fun for both of us as well and the house it spotless when mum comes home and that always makes everyone happy!

The important thing is not the quality of the work (does she really need to dust the cat again?) but the fact that we can spend the day together doing the things that I need to do while keeping her occupied at the same time and without her whinging for attention.

Even though everything takes twice as long it is also twice the fun and it means that the whole day is taken up with the job of child-minding and housework which is what I’m supposed to be doing anyway!

Sorry Oprah, I’m too busy…

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Potty Training Adventures Part 2

Well here we go! Our little one has finally shown an interest in potty training again.

We bought the potty a while ago and it’s been sitting strategically in the bathroom ever since but it is yet to earn its keep.

We also have one of those plastic toilet cover thingy’s and a step but the big toilet is all a bit tall and intimidating for her so that hasn’t worked yet either.

We started the potty training ages ago with hand signals and all sorts of nonverbal cues but we really didn’t follow up on it properly and we missed a few important cues which made her frustrated so in the end we thought we’d drop it for a while.

We continued to talk to her about it, explain what the potty is for and we have an open door bathroom policy so she can see what goes on in there.

We’ve also been trying to encourage her with times of no nappy during the day. By times of no nappy I mean about 10 minutes after I change a soiled nappy or immediately before or after a bath.

I don’t really want to leave it any longer than that as her confidence is just starting to grow again but more importantly because we have a lot of carpet! She even went shopping with mum to buy special “grown up undies” that she can wear when she doesn’t have a nappy on.

Well yesterday while I was using the big potty she walked into the bathroom, pointed at her little potty and said,”Poo”.
“Yes, that’s where you do a poo” I replied. “Nice work. Do you want to do a poo?”
“Nononononononoooo….!” she yells running off, and that was that.

Not much you might say but at least I now know that she knows what the potty is, what it is for, and that whether or not she needs to use it is nobody’s’ business but hers. A good start.

This morning while I was using the bathroom she came in and sat down next to me on the potty.
“Hooray !” I cry. “That’s where you do wees and poos “.
“Yes” she says
“Do you want to try using it with your pants off ?” I ask.
“No”.
“OK then”.

We both sat there for a while and then she got up, turned around to look at the empty potty and then walked away. Now we might be getting somewhere.

As we were getting her changed and into her pajamas tonight before bed she wriggled and escaped to dash naked around the living room table and straight into the bathroom to look her potty up and down.

She walked around it calculating the correct trajectory and attempted to squat a few times before she finally felt bare bum touch the cool plastic.
“Ahh…”she sighs. “Poo”.
“Yes” we reply.”Poo”.

She sat there quite comfortably for a little while before she got up, dabbed at her bum with the toilet paper we had given her and dropped it back into the empty potty. She then picked up the potty and while holding it at arm’s length she pushed it toward her Mums’ face with a smile that could only have said…
” Your lucky that this time I am only pretending”.

It looks as though our potty training has begun…

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